I drive more carefully than I used to, not just because I’m worried about safety but because I’m also concerned about the hassle. When you’ve been in an accident or two, or had to take care of …
Why We Need to Talk More About Sex
Debra Fileta is an author and licensed counselor, who I was honored to work with as a co-author of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. She did such a brilliant job …
Adventurous Isn’t a Fair Word When the Wife is More Vulnerable
It’s not uncommon for me to hear guys say, “I wish my wife would be more adventurous in the bedroom.” The way this is phrased, it makes the wife seem timid—a character weakness—rather than making the …
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Married Sex Should Not be an Oxymoron
“Jocelyn” and “Danny” come off as unusually integrated, connected, and intimate. They have the feel about them of knowing each other deeply, without facade, and delighting in who each other …
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You Don’t Want What You Think You Want
Let me talk to the women first, and then the guys. However, I’d like both genders to read both sections so that you can consider the weight of all that I’m suggesting here. Part of finding the right …
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Making a Marriage
The following characteristics are essential to make a marriage. You can’t expect a twenty-two-year-old to possess all of them in their full mature form, but you should see the foundations of these …