I was shooting baskets in my Pacific Northwest boyhood home in 1980 when a gigantic plume of smoke way off in the distance told me that the world had changed. Mount St. Helens had finally blown its …
To Cherish Is to Protect
If you cherish some thing, you protect it. In the same way, if you cherish some one, you will protect them. One of the ways to build a cherishing heart toward your spouse, and to help your spouse feel …
Grace and Truth: The Key to Cherishing an Imperfect Spouse
Chet was being a jerk at a family gathering and a relative called him out on it. On the way home, he asked Bonnie what she thought. “You weren’t being a jerk,” Bonnie said. “You were just being …
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Help! I’m Infatuated with Someone Other Than My Spouse
In 1977, Avodah Offit wrote a popular book entitled The Sexual Self that became a favorite among many sex therapists. I’m not endorsing the book (I haven’t actually read it), but she has a quote in it …
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Think About What You Think About
If we want a healthy marriage, if we want a marriage that is marked by cherishing, we have to think about what we think about. Many of us often let our thoughts run wild. Instead of governing our …
Cherishing Lisa Awake
Before I set the bar of my marriage at cherishing my wife, I thought I had run into an unsolvable conundrum. It had to do with waking up Lisa. I’m a morning person, to an extreme. It’s a very …