I have a tendency to wake up ridiculously early, often even before four a.m. I’ll try, many times unsuccessfully, to go back to sleep. One morning I just went ahead and got up. An hour or so later, …
How (and Why) to Stop Asking God to Change Your Spouse
While working on my book Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage, I interviewed a woman who told me about an amazing marital “exercise” she put into practice. She spent an …
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The Only Man/Woman in the World
Would you like to be particularly happy in your marriage? Do you want the security of knowing that no matter what happens the two of you will face the future together, and that nothing will tear you …
When Passion is Impossible to Sustain
I’ve been enjoying Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance and one thought in particular stuck out at me that is so relevant for marriage. Duckworth writes primarily about …
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He Ate My Chocolate
In premarital counseling, I tell couples, “Your ability to continue cherishing each other, treasuring each other and feeling close to each other will be directly tied to your ability to handle …
Catch a Conference with Gary this Fall
Every marriage can use a "pick-me-up" now and then, and some marriages need a complete overhaul. One of the things that have moved me most is when I was at a Cherish conference earlier this …
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