“You know, your prayers are pretty shallow. Why don’t you pray a real prayer?”
The young man was reeling—was she really going to leave him because his prayers weren’t “good enough?”
“Why are you in this lane? Why are you going so slow? Don’t you think we should have taken the other highway?”
I read a book by an author where the wife was so contentious early in their marriage that my heart just sank. Decades of working with couples has demonstrated to me the damage a critical spirit can unleash in any marriage. In a wedding, you’re proclaiming that your spouse is so excellent you choose him or her above all others. It’s an astonishing proclamation of a person’s worth. But from that day forward, some husbands and wives spend the rest of their days trying to “fix” everything that they find displeasing in their spouse, proclaiming to their spouse and the world (whether they realize it or not) that for all practical purposes they entered into a “mercy marriage” with someone they felt sorry for who just needed their help. Lots and lots of help.
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