I’ve spent my life trying to help married couples create oases of intimacy, relationships that shelter us from an often cold and uncaring world. A husband and wife traveling through the challenges and disappointments of this life together, worshipping their God and serving their Savior together is a truly glorious experience. Marital intimacy foreshadows heavenly joy and blessing and is worth the work to get there. I especially wanted to help couples experience this with my books Cherish and A Lifelong Love.
But I’ve come to realize that if couples plant, water, and cultivate a nice little oasis, but one or both of them are turning to porn, that’s like pouring sewage into their pond. Their “oasis” is going to stink. The sewage will pollute their passion. It will undercut everything else they are doing. If you want to grow a satisfying marriage, the first step is to stop pouring sewage into your pond.
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